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MISSIN U

Are you a teenager or young adult? Have you lost a brother, sister or friend to cancer? Do you have a friend who has lost a sibling to cancer? These pages are here to inform, inspire and support you.

Missin' U

 We are sorry for your loss...

The Missin' U pages are especially for young people aged 14-25 years.

As time goes by we hope that young people help build up this section of the site so that it eventually becomes the kind of resource you value and feel comfortable with.

Please send in your stories, messages and feedback. 

 

Helen, sister of Alistair has these words to say...

I lost my younger brother Alastair after a 2-year illness to a rare cancer when he was 18 years old.

 
Alastair was a wonderful brother, and he taught me a lot in his short life. He was patient, kind, compassionate and wise beyond his years.  He never once complained about getting cancer, or the many difficult treatments he endured. He never complained about the strict diet we put him on, the millions of pills he had to take, or the simple fact that he couldn’t have the normal teenage existence his mates were granted. 


Losing my younger brother at such a young age was something that had never even entered my realm of consciousness. Yet, all of a sudden I was faced with the fact that he would be forever 18, but that I would grow older every year, reaching milestones without him by my side.


I don’t know what I would have done without talking to other people like myself who were going through similar experiences. Though my friends try, I really can’t talk to them about it. I find myself only telling them half of what I am feeling to protect them, and to avoid making them feel uncomfortable. I joined CanTeen and now I don’t need to do that, I can be completely honest and I know that I will be supported. I don’t feel like I need to explain anything, because the other members understand already. I became really involved with CanTeen which helped me a great deal. It is probably the one place where saying “My brother passed away from cancer” isn’t a conversation killer; it is a conversation starter. I am now President of ACT/Southern NSW CanTeen.


I like to think that Alastair would be proud of me. I know his only concern was always how his sisters and parents would handle losing him. We support each other through this journey. Even though Al was my younger brother, I looked up to him and admired his amazing strength and bravery. Throughout life, and over the last two years especially, he carried himself with the sort of dignity and courage that I hope to one day achieve.  I hope that these pages here will help support you.